Friday, February 7, 2014

Understanding And Recognizing Domestic Abuse

By Jayne Rutledge


One of the biggest and most dangerous issues that society is facing today would be none other than domestic abuse or spousal violence. By definition, spousal abuse is known to be the act of one partner using violence, guilt, threat, blackmail, or any other acts in order to dominate the other one. By understanding all about this act, society may actually be able to do something about it.

Now one thing about spousal violence is that it discriminates no one which means that it may happen to anyone. Whether one may be old or young, male or female, black or white, this type of act may actually happen and will create a lot of long term traumas when it comes to marriage and partnership. This is how bad this kind of abusive act and the extent of the effects would go really far.

Now abusive behavior is actually not an overnight thing wherein the dominating partner becomes abusive the next day. Actually, one would usually start first from a verbal form which usually comes in the form of small and petty insults or put downs. From there, humiliating and hurtful words might spring up in the process.

Of course the hurtful words and belittling acts may lead up to outward violence such as hitting and slapping. Now usually, the violence would start out light like slaps to the face or to the arm. However, if it is left unattended, the dominating partner may actually start hitting the subdued spouse really hard.

Now abusive behavior is not just limited to hitting the subdued partner or saying hurtful and belittling words. In fact, there is such a thing known as sexual abuse that may also happen between spouses. Forced sex is usually done by the men and is done in a manner that would hurt the subdued partner which may also be considered as rape.

One of the most common signs of being a victim of abusive behavior from a spouse would actually be fear of the spouse. If one is evidently scared to make any action in front of his or her spouse, then it is definitely a sign of spousal violence. If one partner always seems to be on toes when he or she is with the spouse, then there is something up.

Of course one of the major causes of this kind of behavior would simply be low self esteem on the part of the dominating partner. Since the dominating partner has low self esteem, then he or she would actually take out the frustration on the partner. This in turn will help him or her gain some self confidence in himself or herself because he or she does not feel like he or she amounts to anything.

Domestic abuse is definitely a big problem that must be stopped because of all of the bad effects. Being a victim of this type of act would actually result in low self esteem or excessive fear of people. No person ever deserves to be a victim of such madness.




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